Michele is a Life Coach with Holistic London. For more information about her work, check her out here.
I joined in with the International Day of Happiness (20.03.2016) by going onto the website where I found lots of information on how to get involved, and increase my levels of happiness....why not, more is always good.
The dictionary defines happiness as a feeling of pleasure, carefree wellbeing, felicitousness.... if that’s a word. However these are not words that I would only use to define happiness, if asked by an alien.
For me happiness always starts with a feeling within the body, and then it is expressed externally by gestures and action then by language.
So, have you ever seen or heard someone whistling or singing, with a smile playing on their face around their eyes and mouth, and their body is swaying and bobbing as they move along..... I know when I have my comment usually is “Gosh that persons happy today”
We can see and even feel someone’s happiness, even if they never tell us verbally that they are feeling happy. For these feelings to be lasting and re-creatable, they must come from within ourselves.
If only external things make us feel happy, then when we move away from those things or triggers, and they are removed from our lives we then experience difficulty in being happy. Yes, I admit this is a very simplistic overview.
However Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a psychology professor at the University of California, and is known there as “the queen of happiness.”
Dr. Lyubomirsky’s research, states that we have the ability to make ourselves happier permanently. This research has been confirmed by others, and states that we each have our own genetic set point which is responsible about 50% of our happiness, life circumstances about 10%, and a massive 40% is up to you baby! The 40% you create depends on your habits and attitudes to life.
Here are 5 things that I do on a regular basis to feed my 40%:
- Think of one thing at the start and end of the day that I am grateful for.
- Find time to enjoy my hobbies and what they give to me.
- Make time to be with my family and friends, sometimes it’s a phone call but being able to connect those I care about makes me feel good.
- Dance around the house to music that I enjoy listening too.
- Sing my favourite happiness songs are..... Bobby McFerrin's “Don't Worry, Be Happy and Pharrell Williams hit “Happy”.
Now you identify 5 things that will help you feed your 40% of happiness, and remember.......
"Happiness depends upon ourselves." -Aristotle