Patrick is a Cognitive-Behavioral Hypnotherapist with HOLISTIC LONDON. For information about his work, visit here.
I am a qualified Hypnobirther who has worked with many pregnant ladies to help them alleviate any anxiety of giving birth.
Hypnobirthing is the specific application of teaching hypnosis specifically to help relax and manage pain.
Apart from learning to breath in a certain way to relax, another important aspect is simple and yet crucial. It is also universal. It does not just apply to pregnant women. It is the freedom of CHOICE.
Women who are interested in hypnobirthing are interested in a natural birth. They see natural birth as a life affirming process, something they want to be truly present to and experience.
You could think of it as a paradox that we would use hypnosis to be more present to an experience, but by being capable of managing what is happening through self-hypnosis, we thereby reduce the need for medical intervention.
However it is challenging sometimes to avoid being conditioned by what one sees on sensationalistic TV programmes or reads in articles in papers and magazines describing women as "too posh to push" and opt instead to have a C section.
Whether they want it or not, many of them have all sorts of scenarios going on in their minds. In turn that can contribute to feeling tense and cause difficulties.
What I help these expectant mothers do is to make a choice. They choose the birth they would like to have and be very clear that it is what they have decided. If complications occur, something that would cause an issue for their health or that of the baby, they would go to plan B or plan C. They would choose a second option.
Making a choice about what is happening to you is not fancy, spiritual or pop psychology. It is what Viktor Frankl described in his book “Man's Search for Meaning”, but it is also what you do when you find that the District line is closed and you have to get on a bus and get on a different line on the London underground. If you are very clear about what you want, i.e. get to work on time, you adapt. If you don't choose to be flexible about the route, you may just give up and be upset about events which are beyond your control.
Whatever the situation, whether it is about the way you are going to give birth or are being faced with life events that you had not anticipated, remember that you can always make a choice. Choose your plan A, and if not choose plan B, or C.
If you are interested in participating in a workshop on hypnobirthing, or know expecting parents who would be, please contact me on: Patrickbaron@gmail.com or 07957 661 887