E.J. is a certified feng shui consultant and educator. He specializes in transforming the quality of life by shifting the energy in homes and offices.
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In our modern, fast-paced world, we can often end up feeling exhausted, ungrounded, and constantly on the move.
An easy solution would be if we could just "slow down", but that is usually easier said, then done.
So, instead, I suggest that we look at the ways that we do, or do not, nurture ourselves. Certainly, the energy of of our kitchen is one place to examine about this. But then, so is the dining area.
Unfortunately, the formal dining room has become a relic of the past for many modern families. Either we just don't have the space in our modern apartments for an entire room devoted to eating, or that room has become "multi-tasked," and is also used as the playroom, gym, and office!
You don't necessarily need a separate dining room to put the table, but you should make sure that the it is properly placed.
Make certain that you can access your dining table from all four sides, and that you do not shove the table up against a wall.
Then, make a clear choice about each person's seat at the table. I have consulted for a number of parent who are concerned about their children's unruliness, and I can often point this directly to how they set up their eating patterns.
Especially in families, each person should have their designated place at the table, which asserts their position in the family. It may sound antiquated to think of the father sitting at one end of the table, and the mother at the other end, but placement does have a big impact. In families, the parents should both be able to see each other clearly, as they direct the flow of interactions during the meal.
Does this sound old-fashioned to you? Well, sometimes, old-fashioned makes a lot of sense!
Start to notice how you position yourself at a dining table, and how various placements make you feel. I have found that these arrangements mirror how we position ourselves in the larger world, and by changing these patterns, new ways of being can emerge.